How Fit Are You In Your Relationship?
The physical fitness of sportspeople is the key to them being successful at their crafts. It is what puts them into the spotlight, and for those who take it to international levels, make the world pays millions of dollars to see them perform. Their physical fitness begins with a desire to be not only better than the next athlete, but to be the best at what they do. This translates into them being psychologically prepared. Being psychologically ready helps them to do the requisite things, such as:
- maintaining a strict diet, even when surrounded by people who eat what they want, when they want;
- adhering to strict coaching rules, like training in all types of weather - and making the sacrifice to deny themselves of social pleasures (partying, drinking).
These are all similar to the care that should be put in to fit relationships.
Having and staying in fit relationships also begin with being psychologically mature to give of your best self. This mental preparedness means honesty and authenticity with self and others. When this happens, it allows you to be vulnerable to yourself; and conscious of the emotions that are surfacing inside of you. It fuels the adrenaline to love unconditionally amidst past failures.
It is important that those who choose to be vulnerable to another, be physically fit to endure the inevitable conflict of personal differences that often elude those who seek happiness, joy and everlasting love. While it takes ‘two to tango or to make a thing go right,’ it begins with the one. This is because we are the only ones who have total control over our actions. We are the ones to be the change that we want to see.
Follow A Strict Diet
It is easy to become frustrated with people whom we are in relationships with – whether they are intimate, spiritual, social, or from work. Consequently, we (like athletes) must follow a strict diet, such as:
Respect – does not have to be earned. It must be given blindly. Every human being craves and deserves respect - including you. So take it for yourself and give it freely to others.
Being sincere – be a true team player and ‘have the backs’ of those with whom you interrelate.
Stay connected –an athlete who stays in harmony with the coach often fares well. This is because the athlete trusts that the coach has his/her best interest at heart. This is true of partners who remain close in communication, touch often, act kindly, spend time, and care deeply about each other’s wellbeing. Despite all of life’s challenges, they fight for each other. Relationships last longer when partners are not neglected or sidelined, and when they do not break the harmony. When you stay emotionally connected, you show you are committed.
Be a friend first. How else will you know if you have a friend? True friends share thoughts, feelings, plans, goals, and even the pain.
Be understanding. None of us is perfect; we come with our unique set of flaws. It is wise to hold off on the many judgements and criticisms.
Be tolerant of people. This is often difficult, but therein lays the beauty of who we are. Cultures, race, ethnicity and socialization shape us and colour us differently. Just like the rainbow, there is beauty in our diversity
Be kind and humble. A gentle spirit is like a ‘soft answer that turns away wrath.’ A little kindness goes a long way into sweetening relationships, and reminding people why they appreciate you. Applying a love filter to a serious message enhances intimacy and warmth for a partner.
An essential part of being fit in relationships is being willing to make the sacrifice. For example, fitness is seen in characteristics such as the ability to:
- Trust – the key is to trust first and then give your partner room for errors
- Connect with others – the pressures of life make it difficult to be in genuine contact with people at all times. Yet, it is important to reach out, go out, and spend time with people who you are in relationships with.
- Remain healthy - have a mindset that is positive and wants to be better. Constantly examine ways to add value to yourself and the relationships that you have generally, not just your partner.
Being fit in your relationships takes courage to demonstrate your better self. It means pushing past the hurt, miscommunication, triggers, baggage, unforgiveness, and judgement. A fit relationship exercises rules that push you to make wise choices, and be purposeful in rebuilding a better you… ‘a you,’ that YOU are proud of and others are too.
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This was a great read, there are so many pieces of sound and very applicable advice.
For sure Jen. Relationships need commitment, consideration, and the age old GREAT communication, which by the ways should be simple. I mean communication should be simple and easy for each to understand, hear and see. A lot of times we are not seen or heard and therein lies the dilemma towards great communication. Another article for a another time. LOL!!
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